Ten Ways To Improving Your Relationship

The beautiful thing about life is that we can share our entire life with the love of our life. Relationship often goes in cycle and needs to be balanced to have continuity. What and who is most important person in our life will drive the need to have a relationship in the first place. As all relationship, for it to work, we must be working at it constantly. Not on valentine day, anniversary day, desperate days, good or bad days but every day. No matter how great a relationship is every relationship always has an area of improvement. Below I briefly highlight ten ways to improving a relationship...

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Let’s Have Lots of Sex

Let’s have a lot of sex but a promising one
Let’s have a lot of sex but a feel good sex
Let’s have a lot of sex but not a feel bad sex
Let’s have a lot of sex but a win-win sex

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Let’s have a lot of sex but a protected sex
Let’s have a lot of sex but a painless sex
Let’s have a lot of sex but a healthy sex
Let’s have a lot of sex but infection-free

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Victim of Facebook Love

According to Mozart ‘Love is the soul of the genius’. As Homo sapiens we were conceived from a love conjunction of two individuals that we call ‘birth parents’. We were made in love and live for love. We crave for love and had to share love ourselves. Love keeps the human race orbiting. The genius in us is being called out when we are arrested by the divinity of love.

Since we are birth by love, we daily seek love. Before the age of social media, we seek to satisfy this crave for love by being vocal about it and making our intentions known by different cues in popular culture.  In recent, the advent of technology has made the onerous task seem invincible where you can easily drive love by the number of text characters, type of emoticons and smileys in a person’s status update on a social media tool.

Social media has offered the current generation one of the most unique platform to connect with family and friends seamlessly real-time. Facebook is the colossus giant ruling this space and have at least 2 out of every 7 person connected on the social networking triangle. You can easily share photos, videos, send messages and update personal status. The first thing Facebook ask you is to update your status, it goes like ‘what’s on your mind?’ You know deeply down your answer – you crave for attention and love. In the real sense, Facebook can connect you with people and at most give you ‘likes’ but it is not capable of giving love. You seemly cannot judge the quality of life by the number of Facebook likes.

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Will History Remember?

                      Veteran Anna Hoffman of New Jersey Regent. Source: sfcmac.wordpress
I once heard the parrots in a neighbor’s main lobby whisper that legacy is for the blind. I tried to reason like I always do with species beneath human best intelligence. But then, I was so furious I want to get into the discussion and have a debate like one of them “fellas”.

The unthoughtful may choose to forget, the careless care less anyways, the hardened may block reasoning, or newbies become blind to the sacrifices of past heroes but history will never forget those who fought hard for what we all enjoy even if taken for granted. Time passes all and moments speed by our notice but history will always remember those who fought hard, not the chickens.

If you were to go on a date with history, will history remember how hard you fought or care less because you are always looking for the easy. How hard are you fighting for your career, marriage, family, kids, spouse, community, nation, humanity? How hard are you fighting for your life?

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Everything Is Mathematics

It is the beginning of spring down here south and I joined the fellas for a game of soccer for the first time in the year. I noticed changes in people and the vibe was different compared to the previous season. Halfway into our warm-ups, a fight ensued between two ladies who came to cheer their man friend. I was flabbergasted that two young ladies in their twenties who appeared decent in demeanor could result into fatal violence in open field.

We paused the session to stop the scuffle but it seems a larger sect would like to see the end of the fight. In fact, it was like a round match of women UFC match, only that I do not think these ones have insurance to cover injuries suffered from broken bottles. There it dawned on me that everything is mathematics. Mathematics resolve truth by seeking out patterns, permutations, shapes, motions, logic, structure, change, space,… probability

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The Palace of Mistakes

Welcome to realness. This guy spits some real.

The breadth of life’s daily up and down is the time clock of our very existence. The world is a beauty of imperfect souls in a perfect space of time. The critical member of this imperfection is the boodle of mistakes we commit in our endeavour to a better expression of self.

We are often relegated to the thought that the mistakes we make defines us as we are all human. I resent such character appropriation. How we ‘right’ our wrongs defines us. No matter how deepened are the wounds, sullen the relationship or messy that fallout; we failing to act to correct our wrongs is building a comfy palace of mistakes.

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Living In The Past Can Be A Huge Risk

One of the best decisions in life one can make is dealing with present reality by managing attending situations of life within contemporary means. It is often said that it is the decisions made and actions undertaken in the past that brought us where we are now. That is looking at it from a systemic angle.

With life come choices and chances. There is different between stand-up and stand-up now. You can easily recall how many times you came late to the party (delayed in taking a necessary step to achieving a portion of success). Mind you, the world comes with its surprises. Even the most gifted aren’t the most celebrated but the fortunate.  We are fortunate with a lot of things but who can discern the unfortunate circumstances of life. The designer of the universe knows better than we mortals.

For in the strength of a man, the fort of battle is built. Who will rule is in the hands of who wins the battle of life. From childhood to adulthood, we transcend from sucking milk to growing tooth. Who ever thought that cracking of bones would be much fun than growing the first lateral incisor has passed through the full cycle of eruption.om

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If Ferguson Saga Were To Happen In Canada

Protesters light a candle during a demonstration in response to the Ferguson decision, in Toronto on Sept. 25. Angela Mullins/Metro

Kate Puddister | MetroWhen a grand jury looked at the shooting death of Michael Brown, it was not assessing the guilt or innocence of Officer Darren Wilson, but rather if the prosecution could lay a charge against him and what that charge should be.

In the U.S., grand jury deliberations are controlled by the prosecution and done in secret. The prosecution presents evidence and explains the law to the jury and how it applies to the particular case. The defence does not participate in a grand jury and thus, there is no cross-examination of witnesses. The findings of a grand jury do not have to be unanimous; in Missouri, nine out of 12 jurors must support indictment for a charge to be laid.

Prosecutor Robert McCulloch did not have to go the grand jury route. He could have laid charges and proceeded to a preliminary hearing, a process also used in Canada for serious offences. Unlike a grand jury, a preliminary hearing takes place in an open court, is supervised by a judge, and allows for the cross-examination of witnesses by the defence.

How heavy drinking affects the sexes

BEN WILKINSON | DAILY MAIL
Men are more likely to lose their memory, while women become 'obnoxious and insulting'

• Drinking games 'pose a health risk to freshers and put them at serious risk'
• Result in people consuming 15 per cent more alcohol in one go 
• Doctors warn this raises risk of choking on vomit and brain damage
• Men were twice as likely to lose their memory after a heavy session
• Women were more likely to indulge in embarrassing behaviour

They are often seen as a way of breaking the ice among nervous new university students.

But alcohol abuse campaigners are warning drinking games pose a health risk to young freshers and put them at serious risk. New research has established students drinking by the rules of a game – coupled with peer pressure – consume around 15 per cent more alcohol.

Dr Sarah Jarvis, who sits on the medical advisory board for charity Drinkaware, said: ‘Part of the problem is they are letting their hair down – usually for the first time. 'They are feeling very nervous, most feel is a way of fitting in – a rite of passage.

‘This sort of drinking has real health implications. We know there is a significant issue of alcohol poisoning with young people because they do not tend to drink every day.  ‘The big problem is many of these young people haven’t drunk that much in the past and they do not know how they will react to alcohol.’

The Beautiful Attraction and Distraction of the Feminine Gender

Able | Ablethought
Have you ever considered the world made of only men? That would have been the most unimaginable boring world. In popular old culture, the masculine gender runs the show. They are everywhere, from the factory, office to the fore front of technological advancement. Could this be that the ‘man’ is the only entity that can keep the human race and animal world fuelled.

When you look into history either through the lens of the evolution of man by Charles Darwin or creation as documented in the book of genesis. The man is a product of the woman, yet the woman is the by-product of the man, so the man is intertwined with the woman. ‘Wo-man’, not only is a man with womb but a man with much width- the curves and cleavages. Say no more, son!

A full man cannot resist the sight of a beautiful woman. As I traverse the road to work every morning in my rugged steel grey Toyota, I can’t but pause to notice and see beautiful women driving past me. This almost got me a photo radar ticket. Was this attraction or a distraction? Speed fines will tell? Got about three now, oh pity me! The man naturally is insufferably turned on the sight of a beautiful woman. What of the non-beautiful woman. To be honest, I have never met one. There is just some about the feminine gender. The beauty lies is different packages and the beholder. The beauty of some women are crystal clear and glaring to those who have eyes, others had to be the voice. Some women unique virtues lies in their culinary skills, others dressing, some their wifely attributes or home management.

Imagine If Canada Had 36 Provinces, What It Might Look Like

Canada has had no shortage of proposals for new provinces, territories and regions throughout its history.

Washington, D.C.-based geographer Alexandr Trubetskoy imagined what it might look like if many of them came to fruition.

Last week, he posted the following map to Reddit, where it drew plenty of comments.

Explaining the map, Trubetskoy said he included "every new province proposal since the late 19th century that gained any significant political support."

Cover Page | Anaconda Girl Nicki Minaj Featured in GQ’s November 2014 Issue

Nicki Minaj unleashes her sexy style in the style magazines’ latest issue as she is photographed by Mark Seliger, showing off her assets in a white angular bra and blue skirt while holding blue and pink poodles on a leash.

Read highlights from the interview below!

On her customer service job: “I like dealing with people, but I don’t really like a lot of bullshit, so maybe customer service wasn’t the best job for me.”

On her natural look: “I always thought that by the time I put out a third album, I would want to come back to natural hair and natural makeup. I thought, I will shock the world again and just be more toned down. I thought that would be more shocking than to keep on doing exactly what they had already seen.”

On the video for “Anaconda”: “I think the video is about what girls do. Girls love being with other girls, and when you go back to us being younger, we would have slumber parties and we’d be dancing with our friends.”

On the “Anaconda” cover art, which spawned a million memes: “I just said I’ll put it out, never thought in a billion years that people would be putting [other] people’s heads on it. It’s the craziest shit.”

Spotify Streams Into Canada Music Lovers

The Huffington Post Canada  | By Joshua Ostroff

"Canada is a big important music market that's way larger than its actual population," says Spotify's managing director and content chief Ken Parks of our land of Drake, Celine and Arcade Fire. "So it's a very important centre for music."

Still, it took Spotify what felt like forever to come to Canada after having dominated the music streaming scene in the U.S. and Europe. But the service finally arrived in the north last week, where it joined preexisting players like Rdio and fellow newcomer Google Play Music, which set-up shop last May.

"First you have to see what kind of rights you need, and then in a place like Canada you can't ignore the strong local scene, so we took our time," he says

Not only has Spotify set-up deals with Canadian indies like Arts & Crafts and Audiogram but they've also set-up partnerships with Canadian acts ranging from new kids like Kiesza and Shawn Mendes to old-schoolers like Bryan Adams.

Why Can't We Make Marriage A Three Year Renewable Contract?

MARINA ADSHADE

Special to The Globe and Mail

Divorce rates are soaring, the younger generation has abandoned committed relationships, and marriage is redundant in a world in which women are self-sufficient, or so the story goes at least. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and a willingness to entertain legal reforms to marriage that a generation ago we would have considered completely absurd.

One such proposition is to take the long-term commitment out of marriage and, instead, have marriages that automatically expire after a fixed term of three or four years. Couples who wished to remain married at the end of the contract would have the option of hiring a lawyer to renew their contract for another fixed term, while those who wished to split would be spared the expense, and stigma, of a divorce

Let’s ignore for a moment the fact that divorce rates in Canada today are no higher than they were 30 years ago, and that the overwhelming majority of young people plan to marry one day, and that women who are capable of being self-sufficient are actually more, not less, likely to be married. What would we lose by replacing the current “until death do us part” approach to marriage with a series of short-term contracts?

Opinion | Why Canada Shouldn't Rely on Unpaid Caregivers

Nicole F. Bernier | HuffPost

The unexpected and largely unreported good news about homecare in this country is that the vast majority of Canadians who receive home help or homecare for a chronic health condition are getting all the services they need.

According to a recently released Statistics Canada article, 2.2 million individuals representing eight percent of Canadians 15 years and older, received homecare in 2012. Most of these individuals, 1.8 million, consider that over a one-year period they received all the services they required (such as personal care, transportation or household maintenance) to help with their daily activities. Only a minority, approximately 15 percent, said they had unmet homecare needs.

Fully meeting the needs of the vast majority of homecare recipients is a notable achievement for Canada, considering this country has no national homecare system, and considering that provinces, which have jurisdiction over homecare, are known for anemic budgetary expenditures in this area.

So how does Canada achieve so much with so little? Canada has a heavy reliance on informal, unpaid caregivers.

Five Ways ISIS Makes $3 Million A Day

U.S. intelligence officials revealed last week that they believe the Islamic State, also known as ISIS, is reaping as much as $3 million a day in revenue, making it one of the wealthiest terrorist groups in history.

The group desperately needs the money, for as one U.S. official recently told NBC: "Running a caliphate is not cheap." ISIS needs to pay, arm and feed its brigades. The group also rewards the families of killed militants with a pension, and it needs to cover the costs of governing the territory it has captured.

This is where the Islamic State is getting its money from:

1. WEALTHY DONORS
Just like other radical militant groups fighting in Syria, the Islamic State initially relied largely on cash gifts from wealthy sympathizers who were determined to support Sunni fighters in their revolt against Syrian President Bashar Assad.

Can Happiness Be Bought?

First the cathedral and then the cafe? Experiences like travel bring greater satisfaction than material goods, researchers say.

You Can Buy Happiness, If It's An Experience. We humans spend a lot of time waiting in lines: People queue up for days in order to get their hands on the latest iPhone, or what feels like eons for a table at that hip new brunch place.

You may be better off spending time and money on the latter. A growing body of research has shown that experiences tend to make people happier than material possessions.

And even anticipating an experience like a concert, a ski trip or what better be a really great brunch makes us happier than purchasing the latest gadgets, according to a study published Tuesday in Psychological Science.

The study, cleverly titled Waiting for Merlot: Anticipatory Consumption of Experiential and Material Purchases, tracked how about 100 college students and over 2,200 randomly selected adults felt about material goods and experiences.

People got excited about both things and events. But they tended to feel more positive about experiential purchases, and their feelings about material purchases were more likely to be tinged with feelings of impatience.

How to Learn to Read 300 Percent Faster in 20 Minutes

How much more could you get done if you completed all of your required reading in one-third or one-fifth the time?

Increasing reading speed is a process of controlling fine motor movement -- period.

This post is a condensed overview of principles I taught to undergraduates at Princeton University in 1998 at a seminar called the "PX Project." The below was written several years ago, so it's worded like Ivy-Leaguer pompous-ass prose, but the results are substantial. In fact, while on an airplane in China two weeks ago, I helped Glenn McElhose increase his reading speed 34 percent in less than five minutes.

I have never seen the method fail. Here's how it works...

The PX Project
The PX Project, a single three-hour cognitive experiment, produced an average increase in reading speed of 386 percent.

It was tested with speakers of five languages, and even dyslexics were conditioned to read technical material at more than 3,000 words-per-minute (wpm), or 10 pages per minute. One page every six seconds. By comparison, the average reading speed in the U.S. is 200-300 wpm (one-half to one page per minute), with the top one percent of the population reading over 400 wpm...

If you understand several basic principles of the human visual system, you can eliminate inefficiencies and increase speed while improving retention.

To perform the exercises in this post and see the results, you will need: a book of 200+ pages that can lay flat when open, a pen, and a timer (a stop watch with alarm or kitchen timer is ideal). You should complete the 20 minutes of exercises in one session.

First, several definitions and distinctions specific to the reading process:

The World's Largest Artist Colony Is About To Be Bulldozed

In the heart of New Delhi lives what is said to be the world's largest collective of performers -- puppeteers, drummers, monkey tamers, snake charmers, singers, acrobats, and more. Their family units can include more than a dozen members. Dads and moms pass their art down to the kids. In Kathputli Colony that's simply how things are done.

Whether tradition will continue this way is another story. The 3,000 families of Kathputli are facing a major threat to their way of life, a standoff that's mesmerized local papers and documentarians abroad who have trekked to the so-called magician's ghetto to capture what could be its final days.

The colony began in the 1950s, when Delhi was not so dense as it is today. Now the land it sits on is central and valuable. Accordingly, powerful entities are vying for it. The civic body who owns the land, the Delhi Development Authority (DDA), plans to evict all the current residents to make room for luxury flats and a shopping mall.

Kathputli means "puppeteers," but the word has come to stand for every type of magic that happens in the 6.5-acre colony. Recently, photographer Mark Leaver visited to record the scene before it disappears. Leaver took portrait style shots of the performers in their homes, which he plans to compile into a book

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