Wednesday, June 18, 2014

How to Believe YourSelf in the Face of Doubt and Negative Thinking

Achieving goals and finding happiness is almost impossible when one doesn't believe in oneself. No one can give you the confidence to strive for your dreams, and no pill can alleviate a lack of that belief. It can often be hard to believe in yourself, especially if you feel like you have nothing to offer or are unworthy of things. But you are worthy and you are capable
 
Every person believes in themselves, but they could believe negative things about themselves. They believe they cannot be happy, they are not good enough, they don't deserve love and a lot of negative things. These are nothing else than limited beliefs. We learned these beliefs since we were born, from our parents, family, school teachers, religious leaders - everybody around us. A belief is just a thought you keep on thinking. Limited beliefs go against our desires.


If you have been beat down long enough, believing in yourself can seem impossible. When you have had people in your life who do not lift you up, you pretty much take over for them when they are not there. You proceed to discount your skills and abilities based on what other people have said. You are doing a great disservice to yourself and giving your power to someone else. To reach your goals in this life, believing in yourself is extremely important if you want to get anywhere. Those assumptions about who you are become a way of life. You will stay stuck in these patterns until you change the way you think.

How can you replace your limited beliefs with empowering beliefs? The first step is to identify your beliefs and find the reason behind them. Is it good for you to believe that? It is a good idea to write a list of all the beliefs you have, and then wonder, are they limiting you to do or get what you want? If you wrote, "I believe people like me don't deserve to be happy," then ask yourself why you believe it
 
When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” ~Honore de Balzac

You know what that voice in your head says…

You can’t do it. You’ll never be good enough. You’re going to fail.

This voice taunts you whenever you set a goal. It criticizes you when life gets difficult. It beats you down when you struggle to stand up against its running commentary.

You know you shouldn’t let self-doubt bother you, but it’s a sneaky critter. Sometimes, you just can’t contain it and it slips past your barriers.

And self-doubt is greedy. When it’s loose, it devours your confidence, strips logic and reason from your mind, and steals happiness from your heart. In return, it leaves you with only fear and insecurity.

You try to remove self-doubt by forcing yourself to “think positive,” which usually doesn’t work as well as you think it should.

The more you fight your self-doubt, the more it fights back. However, with self-knowledge and understanding, you can use self-doubt for your benefit.

Self-doubt doesn’t have to be as monstrous as we make it out to be. It’s all about perspective. The following tips will help you manage your self-doubt.
  1. Identify and ease your doubts.

  2. Stop listening to toxic people.

  3. Recall your successes.

  4. Trust and love yourself.

  5. Give yourself permission to try…and try again.

 

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